Name the access
Identify the exact thing this person can currently reach or influence.
They currently have access to my ________.
SPOT THE PATTERN · STOP THE EXPOSURE
The Access Audit
A short reset for noticing who has access to your time, attention, labor, and peace—and whether that access still makes sense.
A companion resource for Stop Handing Them the KeysFREE READER PRACTICE
Five questions before you hand over another key
Move slowly. A useful answer is more important than a polished one. Write privately, pause when your body asks, and return when you are ready.
Inspect the evidence
Use behavior, not history or potential, to evaluate what happens with that access.
The last three times I gave access, the evidence was ________.
Price the pattern
Notice the cost in time, money, sleep, self-trust, or emotional recovery.
Keeping this access open costs me ________.
Choose the new limit
Make the next boundary concrete enough to follow without another debate.
Beginning now, I will ________.
Let consistency speak
Decide what you will repeat when pressure returns.
My one-sentence boundary is: ________.
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