Name what you noticed
Let empathy identify the feeling without turning it into a job.
I notice that they may be feeling ________.
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Five questions for returning what is not yours
Move slowly. A useful answer is more important than a polished one. Write privately, pause when your body asks, and return when you are ready.
Find the request
Distinguish a clear request from an expectation you inferred.
The actual request—if any—is ________.
Check ownership
Ask whose decision, emotion, consequence, or repair this belongs to.
This responsibility belongs to ________.
Choose compassionate limits
Offer only what you can give without resentment or self-erasure.
I can offer ________, but I cannot offer ________.
Return to yourself
Redirect some of the care you mobilized back toward your own body and needs.
The care I need right now is ________.
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