Catch the automatic rescue
Notice the task you claimed before anyone clearly asked.
I automatically started handling ________.
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Five moves from overfunctioning to a clean yes
Move slowly. A useful answer is more important than a polished one. Write privately, pause when your body asks, and return when you are ready.
Read the resentment receipt
Treat resentment as information about an unspoken limit.
My resentment may be showing me that ________.
Return the adult task
Identify what another capable person can reasonably carry for themselves.
The part I can return is ________.
Test the yes
A clean yes does not require self-betrayal, secret bargaining, or future punishment.
If guilt disappeared, my honest answer would be ________.
Redirect the care
Use the reclaimed energy for something that supports your own life.
With that energy, I will care for myself by ________.
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